Tough Love or Abuse?

Tough Love or abuse? Tough Love in my opinion is the truth that hurts. The exhortation that is for your good. It may hurt your feelings but the message isn't for your detriment but for your good.

Tough Love defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. Love or affectionate concern expressed in a stern or unsentimental manner (as through discipline) especially to promote responsible behavior.

Abuse defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. Language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately and angrily. To use or treat as to injure or damage. To attack in words.

My experiences as an obese child and adult was usually abuse. It's expected because of prejudice to be criticized and attacked by those who don't know you in the world. But I'd have to say the majority of my verbal and mental abuse came from inside my home and people who are my blood relatives. My definition of family is my own and many people that are blood relatives I don't consider them my family.

I'm no longer bitter. No longer looking for apologies. I'm sharing this article and topic because I want you to be aware and know the difference between tough love and abuse. If you're being insulted and put down. Jokes are being made about your weight at your expense, this isn't tough love it is abuse. They will say they're doing it for your own good. This is a lie. Hurtful and often hateful destructive words will not benefit you. This is not love. It's not exhortation, it's not lifting you up and encouraging you. It's usually cruel and will promote shame and self hate. That is not tough love. That is abuse!

I'm here to tell you. You got this! You can do it! You can make the decision and changes in your life for the better. Healthy choices just one step at a time. One day at a time but you can do it! You are important to God. He loves you and wants the very best for you. That includes a healthier diet and body. Why die before your time? Carrying around all that excess weight is difficult and exhausting. I know, I still have my daily struggles. I will have this daily battle until the day I die. But healthier food choices are pleasing to my body and my God. Gluttony is a sin. So let's do better together. Let's begin today and Never Give Up, Never Quit!

Lady Blogger

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